随着物质生活水平的提高,越来越多的父母趋向于给他们的孩子物质奖励。例如,如果孩子考试考得好,他们就有可能得到ipad或者一些昂贵的东西。每当说到这个话题,不同的人有不同的观点。有人认为这种策略对孩子不好,有些人持相反观点。我认为这个有好也有坏
In the first place, there is no doubt if parents promise child that they will get the things they want after they are doing good in the exam, children will try their best or every make a breakthrough in study. However, this reward policy might let them have a false consciousness, which the child might think if they are good at something they are certainly get rewarded. They will be frustrated when they don’t have rewards when they go to work in the future, which happens frequently.
第一,无疑如果父母承诺如果孩子在考试中做得好就会得到他们想要的东西的话,孩子就会尽最大努力甚至在学习中有突破。然而,这种奖励机制可能会让他们有错误的观点,如果他们做好了某事,他们就必定会得到奖励。他们也许在工作后做得好却没有奖励而备受挫折,这种事经常发生。
In the second place, it is child’s obligation to have a good remark on their study, if there is a reward exists, their parents had already get them, the tuition. Child can go to school to receive education due to parents’ money, they should learn as hard as they can, but not thinking too much about the rewards. A reward could stimulate the learning desires, but material reward is not necessary, a trip to zoo, picnic, and fairground is enough for child.
第二,在学习中有个好成绩是孩子的责任,如果真要说奖励,他们的父母已经给过他们了,那就是学费。孩子能够去学校接受教育,那是因为父母的钱,他们应该尽其所能的学习,而不是老想着得到奖励。奖励能激发学习欲望,但是物质奖励就不是很必要,去动物园,野餐,游乐园对孩子来说就够了。
All in all, parents should give children more mental rewards, instead of material rewards. Let the children know what real point of their studying is, and have a thankful heart to study hard.
总之,父母应该给孩子更多的精神奖励而不是物质奖励。让孩子知道学习的真正要点是什么,怀着一颗感恩的心去努力学习。
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